Support People: What would make your life easier?
Support people need support too! Supporting someone with opioid use disorder can take a toll. What resources or information would make your life easier?
She is living a life of destructive behavior. Goes to therapy, but doesn't address the real issues I am afraid. Met some guy in the grocery store and drives her car 100 miles to see him. His car is not road worthy. We have given her two months to move from our home. We have a grown child we adopted with serious health issues and other daughter is causing us too much stress. We will have to love her from afar.
I'm glad to hear she has therapy as a resource, but of course, sorry to hear it doesn't seem to have taken root or led to much tangible change. I imagine setting that 2 month timeline was a difficult choice, especially with what you shared in your first comment here, but I can certainly see where you might be coming from especially given your situation at home. But I want to at least acknowledge how hard that might be. That said, I do appreciate your emphasizing that you can still love her from afar. Was this timeline received well by her or difficult to navigate? - Jake (Team Member)
I need to know if there are steps to keep from being an enable. Or a list of things not to do. I need to know if your adult (50+) child is living with you is that enabling. She has too little income to go elsewhere.
First off, this is a really thoughtful question. I can tell just from you taking the time to ask it that you really care about your daughter. I'm not sure there's a perfect answer to this or a one-size-fits-all approach, since these situations can be so complex. But it sounds like you just want to be mindful of how you can best help. I think some questions you could just keep in mind is if you feel like your actions are supporting their recovery and healing. Do you feel like your support is helping lead her to change and growth? I want to also just acknowledge how difficult this can be as a parent and how it makes sense to maybe be wrestling with this situation. - Jake (Team Member)
